When you give authority to your biography to define your identity you suffocate the soul. But when you grant authority to your identity to reframe your biography you find inner strength.
You can let events and circumstances shape you and strengthen you; without defining you. Your soul desires freedom far too much for that cage. It will communicate it’s unhealth to you in many ways that feel uncomfortable and scary.
Create space for your soul to breathe and listen closely to what if says. The Spirit of God is there teaming up with your soul to set you free.